It’s a very common experience for ADHDers to hear…
“Woah, don’t take it so seriously.”
“Why are you always so defensive?”
After a lifetime of being criticized and put under a microscope for things that we don’t do on purpose, many ADHDers develop a strong layer of self defense.
Many times, we felt criticized by the "jokes" family would make at the expense of our (often undiagnosed) ADHD symptoms.
Often our feelings were invalidated. When no one seems to take your struggle seriously, you feel like you're the only person who will come to your defense!
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria also plays a role because we can feel rejected or threatened, even if that was not the person's intention.
WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT DEFENSIVENESS?
Think of a situation where you had a difficult conversation this week or received negative feedback or criticism.
How did it make you feel?
What did you need in that moment?
What are you really (insert feeling) about?
To continue this lesson, join our FREE ADHD Masterclass “How to Reduce Defensiveness!” on Monday, March 4 2024 @ 10AM EST
Together we will learn how to:
STOP being defensive
Learn what is causing us to be defensive
Learn what to do to help us control our defensiveness
See you soon,
Coach Brooke
