Fulfilling My OWN Love Languages with ADHD (Quick Self-Love Recharge)
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Love languages aren't just for romantic partners.
If you have ADHD, you’ve probably learned to outsource your needs or dismiss them entirely in order to get by. Especially if you’ve spent years people-pleasing, masking, or burning out, like many ADHDers.
But what if you could turn your love languages inward? What if your ADHD brain could learn to speak its own language of care?
Here’s how that can look:
Physical Touch = Sensory Therapy
It’s not about romance, it’s about regulation.
Wrap up in a weighted blanket, hug a body pillow, or grab your favorite massager.
Your nervous system deserves comfort, not just productivity.
Quality Time = Permission to Play
Hyperfocus can trick us into thinking downtime is “wasted.” It’s not.
That video game, model kit, or rabbit hole of a hobby is rest.
Give yourself guilt-free space to dive in.
Words of Affirmation = Good Old Validation
Ask ChatGPT what your strengths are (seriously), reread that kind text, or talk to yourself like you would a friend.
Celebrate wins you used to beat yourself up over.
Gift Giving = Finding Forgotten Joy
There's no need to spend money to give yourself a gift. Open your own closet like it’s a treasure chest.
That cozy hoodie you forgot you owned? That old journal?
ADHD often hides joy in plain sight (or messy storage)... Go rediscover it.
Acts of Service = Outsourcing
What’s the task you’ve been dodging for weeks? Pay someone. Trade with a friend. Or give yourself permission to do it badly but done.
Your future self will thank you.
We don’t have to wait for someone else to love us “right.”
With ADHD, loving yourself in a way your brain actually receives isn’t selfish... It’s the recharge we need to keep sharing that love with others.
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Take Care of Yourself,
Coach Brooke
