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Are Breakups for ADHDers 10x More Painful?

  • Feb 8, 2024
  • 1 min read

Updated: Nov 24, 2025

Breakups are a universal experience, a tumultuous journey of heartache and healing that many of us must navigate at some point in our lives. Yet, for individuals with ADHD, this journey often takes on an entirely different dimension of emotional intensity.


Let's delve into the unique challenges faced by those with ADHD when it comes to handling breakups, exploring the raw emotions, impulsive reactions, coping mechanisms, and the difficulty in moving on that characterize this experience.


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Breakups VS ADHD

Breakups are universally challenging, but for individuals with ADHD, they often take on an entirely different dimension of emotional intensity. The raw, unfiltered emotions can overwhelm us during this trying time.



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Our Impulsive Reactions

Ever sent a text you shouldn't have right after a breakup? That's impulsivity in action. ADHD can make us react before we think, leading to actions we later wish we hadn't taken.



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Coping Mechanisms

Some individuals with ADHD may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, like substance use or reckless behavior, to deal with the emotional pain of a breakup.



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Difficulty in Moving On

It's not about being unable to move on because we're pining for our ex-partner; it's about our ADHD brain still searching for that excitement we once had.



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Feeling it 10x more

It's not that we're more emotional than others; it's that our ADHD brains often process emotions with an extra layer of intensity. This heightened emotional response can make the pain of a breakup feel more profound.


Sending my love,


Coach Brooke

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