With ADHD, we’re often told that we have “no filter” For the things that come out of our mouths.
A large part of this is our impulsivity that allows us to say things without fully thinking it through. This impulsive communication can be both a staple and a challenge of ADHD, leading to social misunderstandings, hilariously witty moments, and sometimes regret.
It’s important to remember that this lack of a filter isn’t about rudeness or insensitivity; it’s a fascinating reflection of how the ADHD brain works!
Having "no filter" means that our thoughts and emotions are often expressed immediately, without the usual pause for reflection or consideration of consequences. With ADHD, this impulsivity is rooted in the brain’s difficulty with self-regulation and executive function.
We tend to be creative with unconventional ideas that may come off as random or “out of pocket” to others.
We’re often observational of things others don’t notice so we may want to point out the irony in a situation and we aren’t afraid to do so!
But blurts of unfiltered thoughts can sometimes lead to awkward social interactions. We might share too much information, interrupt mid-sentence, or say something that’s misinterpreted. These moments can leave us feeling embarrassed or anxious about how others might perceive us and the situation.
Typically the people we hang out with are generally more accepting of our neurodiverse ways of thinking, allowing us to act naturally and say those out of pocket things.
It’s important to communicate openly with the people in our lives about our experiences and challenges. By building a supportive environment where we feel safe to be ourselves, we can work on refining our communication skills without fear of judgment.
Embrace your Authenticity!
It’s rare to find people who are truthful, funny, witty, and intuitive so own your “lack of a filter”! Just remember to be mindful of who we are unfiltered around.
People with ADHD often bring a refreshing authenticity to their interactions. You might be seen as someone who speaks from the heart, without the layers of pretense that can sometimes cloud communication. Your spontaneity can also make conversations lively and engaging, bringing energy and new perspectives to discussions.
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