Many adults with ADHD walk around carrying a quiet, persistent question they can't quite shake. Underneath everything I do for other people, underneath how I manage and cope and perform, who am I actually? The question doesn't always feel urgent. It just sits there, surfacing in odd moments. Someone asks what you want for your birthday and you realize you don't have an answer. A friend tells you how easygoing you are and something in you flinches a little. For people with ADHD, that...

For a lot of people with ADHD, rejection doesn't register as a passing disappointment. It lands in the body like an injury. Someone cancels plans at the last minute and instead of mild letdown, you feel something closer to devastation. A coworker offers a small piece of constructive feedback in a meeting and you spend the next four days replaying the exact wording, scanning their face in your memory for what they really meant. If you've lived this, you already know the strangest part. You can...

So many women spent years in therapy for the wrong thing. The symptoms of undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety look almost identical from the outside, and for decades, the diagnostic tools were built around only one of them. Some of those women are still there. Still in treatment for something that addresses the surface without ever reaching what's underneath. The Symptoms That Fool the System You face racing thoughts, difficulty concentrating, emotional dysregulation, avoidance and exhaustion that...